Ready to live your best life? Let's chat. I'm known for scratching up the cash to pursue big dreams. From paying off $8,000 of debt in 90 days, moving to New York with just a suitcase and $300 in my pocket, awkward money conversations, and going into massive debt when I bought my first fixer-upper at age 26 (and a few other crazy stories – like starting my own six-figure blogging business – who knew?!) My twenties were pretty wild, but I'm just getting warmed up.
What initially started out as a “hobby blog” and way for me to share (and learn from) past money mistakes morphed into something bigger.
The site still covers financial topics, but it's also about building a life you love, how I built my life aligned with my values, and how money – and a few other super smart and strategic decisions – can help you get to where you ultimately want to be.
All I know is that everything in my own universe shifted for me when I started paying attention to my finances, my voice, and my own intuition.
What “best life” will you build once you start listening to yours?
The Two Most Important Things to Know About “Living Your Best Life”
- First, is that living your best life is very attainable for anyone.
- Second, is that in order to get there you have to commit the time and do the work.
Upon further reflection, I boiled down my own financial best life (and subsequent content on this site) comes down to five game-changing steps. I know for me, these have made all the difference in enabling me to get to where I am today.
Achieve and Live Your (Financial) Best Life in Five Steps
Step #1 – Master the Money Basics
Spend time figuring out what your own best life looks like, and then create a plan for how you're going to afford it.
“Affording it” doesn't mean you have to get rich and make a million dollars. It just means you have to learn how to manage your money well.
In fact, it's one of my core money beliefs that you don't have to be an expert (or hire an expert) to manage your everyday finances.
Steps include: learning how to build a budget, save some money, figuring out how to save more money, establishing some type of emergency fund, discovering how your personality wants to manage your money, working to create a healthy relationship with credit, and finding the financial tools you'll love to use along the way.
The important thing isn't to get it right, but to simply start spending time with your money each day if you're new to it.
Step #2 – Pay off debt
While debt can be a tool to be leveraged for whatever you want to do, in most cases debt is just another thing that holds you back.
Steps include: This is why it's very important to pay off debt as fast as you can, create a debt master plan for tackling the rest, and put things in place to help you stay motivated while paying off debt. It can take a long time, sure, but in the grand scheme of things a little pain now (in terms of debt payoff) is worth a lot down the road. I never would've been able to leave my full time job if I hadn't gotten serious about paying off my debt. (See 8k in 90 day challenge.)
Step #3 – EARN MORE (The Most Important Step!!!)
Investing doesn't always have to mean in the markets. Once you've paid off debt, you're now free to really invest in what makes you happy, ideally ways that can help you earn more money than you would've by just following the status quo. Investing in things such as yourself, your education, a blog, your kid's education, a future business, or a home for your family. (Even if that family is just you and a little dog!)
You want to be investing in things that will make your money grow for the long term.
If you take only one thing away from this post, it's this: EARN MORE MONEY. Figure it out.
My life only looks the way it does now because I started my blog and then realized it could make revenue. And then I figured out how to grow that revenue. Because I invested in myself and my “blogger education” early on, I was able to market myself as someone with a skill and I got my full time jobs in marketing this way.
Even now that I'm back working full time in a 9-5 job (while blog hustling on the side), I still look for ways to increase my earning potential. If I hadn't begun to break out of my money scarcity mentality, I'd still be a broke ass actor.
You have to shift your money frequency and vibrate on a higher plane in order to get the cash necessary to live your best life (whatever this looks like.) It's imperative you do this.
Step #4 – Develop Tenacity
I was on a podcast the other day and someone asked…
“What was the biggest challenge you faced when you first started blogging?”
The biggest? Finding the strength/courage/motivation to keep going when things weren't exactly going well. Sure, you can look and see slick graphics, corporate sponsorships, coaching services and that I now work for myself full time, but I like to always remind folks and clients that these things have come after three and a half years of hard work.
6 years ago it was just me, a computer, my terrible grammar and a handful of new friends I'd made on Twitter.
I can't tell you how many days it felt like I was spinning my wheels, trying to say something but unsure of my voice, if I was explaining my sentiments correctly, frustrated if anyone cared or would come back to read. More than that, I struggled for several years with combating burnout; writing 8 hours at my day job and then coming home to blog and side hustle was really, really tough and took a lot of the joy out of it for me a lot of the time.
There were definitely days and weeks when I seriously entertained taking a break or giving up entirely.
Which is part of my pattern, or former pattern at least. In my youth I jumped from ballet to softball to cheerleading to the theater. I've never been the kid that “stuck” with anything.
Trust me, with a background like that, no one was more surprised than I when somehow, someway with this blog I was able to keep going and commit to my vision even when others didn't see it; even when I had doubts about if I could succeed.
#5 – Acknowledge, It Won't Happen Overnight
Say you want to save up for a house, you have to commit for over a year to setting aside money for that goal. It takes persistence, and it's harder than it looks. Especially if you have several wants competing for your attention at the same time.
Another example: having tenacity can play well when you're investing in the stock market; often investors make the most money holding onto stocks or positions for the long term. The best investors don't change up their strategy every time the market turns. Even for novice investors, it takes a certain amount of tenacity to commit to saving for retirement. It's hard enough to save for short term goals, let alone for a future so far down the road you can barely envision or articulate what it looks like.
Nothing in life: money, relationships, career, ever fully blossoms without day-after-day commitment and diligence.
If you don't commit to building wealth, you'll never break the paycheck to paycheck cycle. Your life will just be about existence. Trust me, no one who is broke is living “their best life.” I'd bet my business on it.
Maybe you're not the most frugal person, maybe you don't like risk. But you can set your financial goals for the year ahead and practice tenacity day in and day out. Instead of committing to a goal, flip your perspective and commit to seeing the goal through.
Start small so you don't get overwhelmed.
And then show up every, single, freaking day until it's done.