Money Advice for Newlyweds: The 45 Tips I’m Using to Prep for Marriage

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LB Note: With my own wedding coming up on December 30th, 2018, I thought I'd dust off this post and give it a refresh. It's more food-for-thought for myself, but I thought readers would enjoy it as well. Thanks again to everyone in the FinCon Facebook group for their thoughtful advice and help creating this large round up!

When you’re just starting off life as a married couple, sometimes finances can take a backseat.  However, they are too important to ignore.  It’s common knowledge that financial incompatibility is one of the leading causes of divorce in America.  Besides the enormous emotional burden, divorce can take a huge financial toll as well. We just bought a house and we're preparing for a wedding in a month and it seems like money is the only thing we talk about. We've got a lot going on! 

With that in mind, I'm definitely taking a tip or two from the advice below as action items for us in 2019.

Here 45 pieces of money advice for newlyweds, lovingly curated by yours truly and  collected from the most prominent personal finance experts and bloggers on the internet. Hopefully, these articles will provide some ideas on approaching those tense “money talks” as a newlywed couple.  


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Money Advice for Newlyweds from Financial Experts

Meet with a financial advisor.

“Meet with a third party [financial advisor] after you get back from the honeymoon who can help balance each other’s needs vs. wants and set your personal and family goals.  Going to an advisor was one of the smartest things we ever did.  It helped me be not so cheap and my wife Kari get a decorating budget we could live with.”  Scott Alan Turner

Pro Tip: When searching for a financial advisor, be sure to get clarification on how they make money.  Some advisors can make a commission on financial products they sell, so it is important to know if there are any potential conflicts of interest.  Your best bet would be to hire a fee-only financial advisor who gets compensated by the hour rather than by a 3rd party for selling certain securities.   


Total transparency.


“Don’t lie or omit your financial details to your spouse.  My best friend and her husband have been married for 1 year.  They didn’t combine their finances, so they didn’t share much about their financial situations.  Well, she got pregnant and he lost his job 2 weeks later.  Then he told her about his $35,000+ of credit card debt.  It’s been awful but they are making it through it…”   –Crystal Stemberger, Budgeting in the Fun Stuff

“DON'T LIE TO YOUR SPOUSE! About money or anything else, really.” ~ Mindy Jensen, BiggerPockets Community Manager

“Start off with what your goals are. Once you two have your joint goals, it's much easier to come up with a system that will reflect your style……The key is to have regular money chats no matter what your system. Some couples like weekly, some do monthly. It's an easy way to make sure your money is working for you two.” ~ Elle Martinez, Couple Money

Two words: Money dates.


“Have money dates! Have a regular time you two get together to not only review the numbers but talk about what you’re working towards.”

–Elle Martinez, Couple Money

“I suggest a date night to budget. Don't just create a budget for the wedding, go one step further and create a budget for first year after marriage, the budget is an annual communication device within a marriage.” – Adam Funk, CFP – The Savings Coach

“This is classic advice but so important once you get out of that ‘honeymoon stage’ in your marriage.  My husband and I were so busy trying to jump start our joint debt payoff right after we got married that we didn’t find the time or money to go out on a casual date.  Even if you’re just getting out of the house together once a month, it’s worth it.  There are plenty of frugal ways to date.” –Choncé Rhea, My Debt Epiphany

Define what decisions should be joint decisions.


“At a more practical level, set a cap on the amount of money the other person can spend without asking (for example, $500 could be your threshold so you can spend $499 without consulting with each other but need to ask if you plan on spending $1,000). Micromanaging is not good but neither is spending carelessly.” ~Julie Starnes Raines, Investing to Thrive

Pro Tip: Having a clear set of guidelines of when you need to speak to your spouse about an expenditure and when it is okay to have a little autonomy is crucial.  It gives each partner the independence to make their own decisions but also gives a clear indication when you need to come together to discuss purchases as a team.


Maintain (some) separate accounts


“Have each partner maintain a separate savings account.  Be totally open and transparent about it.  Combine everything else if you want.  Divorce rates are high, and not having at least a small buffer in case of the worst can spell financial ruin later down the line should you become a statistic.”

–Brynn Conroy, Femme Frugality

“Make sure you always have your own credit cards plus money you control. Exactly how to handle finances will depend somewhat on the personality of the two people and what assets each is bringing into the relationship” ~ Teresa Mears, Living On the Cheap


“I firmly believe that each partner should retain some individual credit, each partner should have their own retirement funds, and each partner should have their own savings account. “I love you so much that I want you to be able to take care of yourself if you have to.” ~ Kate Horrell,


Resources for Before You Walk Down the Aisle

I know absolutely zero about married finances, but after reading these posts one thing is clear – decide if you're going to be a “common pot” couple, “his mine and ours” or “completely separate finances” money couple!

50 Money Questions to Consider Before Marriage – The Centsible Life

How to Talk About Money Before You're MarriedCathy Derus for XY Planning Network

Achieving Wedded (& Financial) Bliss: How to Manage Money in Marriage – MoneyNav

Marriage and Money: What's the Best Way to Join Finances with your Fiance? – DailyFinance

Personal Finance Advice for

Separate Finances: A Recipe for Marital DisasterClub Thrifty

The Couples and Money QUIZ – From

Do Couples Do Better When They Pool All Their Money? – A great money management series for couples on


Money Advice for Newlyweds: Articles for After You've Tied the Knot

Great resources for handling money after you've become husband and wife. 

18 Money Management Tips for Newlywed Couples – Money Crashers

Newlyweds and Managing Money After the Wedding- GoGirl Finance

The 8 Step DIY Financial Plan for Newlyweds – FinancialFitnesse

How to Set Up Your Finances After Marriage – Debt Free After Three

Debt and Marriage– How Paying It Off Makes You Happier – Clear Point Credit Solutions

6 Financial Steps to Take After Marriage – The Centisble Life

Newlyweds, Here's How to Manage Your Finances –

Yours, Mine and Ours: A Couple's Guide to Money Management – MintLife

Advice on Dealing with “The Money Fight”

According to this survey, money is the leading cause of stress in relationships, but didn't we already know that? You're going to fight about money, but these experts can help you prepare and navigate that inevitable money spar session. 

How to Go from Reluctant Spouse to Dream Team – The Reluctant Landlord

The Notorious Money Fight: Overcoming Money Issues in Marriage – The Budget Mama

How to Get Your Spouse Involved in Family Finances – Bible Money Matters

Dealing with the Financial Friction in Our Marriage Yielded Surprising Results – Frugal Confessions


Other Favorite Resources

One Bed, One Bank Account – Folks LOVE this book by Derek and Carrie Olsen. It also comes with a workbook!

The Couple Money Podcast– Elle's dreamy, sweet voice will help soothe all your marital money woes in this awesome podcast.

His and Her Money – An amazing website for couples interested in bettering their finances; the podcast (of the same name) is outstanding. 

Unplanned Finances – A great blog where one bride shares real-life advice about her own marriage and finances. Super transparent, which I love! (Start Here, Here, or Here.)



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Money Advice for Newlyweds: The 45 Tips I'm Using to Prep for Marriage
    • Nora J.
    • February 2, 2019

    Marriage can be a piece of cake if you manage it right, That picture of that beautiful wedding cake topped this post off nicely!

    • Aretha
    • February 2, 2019

    I never realized that there were so many dedicated resources geared towards money advices for newlyweds. Thanks for your post and all the additional resources. Lawd knows I sure need it!

    • Mandap
    • February 2, 2019

    This is a must-read for all couples that are married or planning to get married. Because it you don’t take the time to control your finances, then it will definitely control you! Bookmarked & shared.

    • Ina
    • February 2, 2019

    First of all congrats on your marriage Lauren! With your mature mindset and knowledge about finances I trust that it will be a long and happy one. You set a great example for everyone.

    • Frank
    • February 2, 2019

    Total transparency is a great one. If you going to get married and truly join as one with a person, then it’s best to be be open and honest about everything -especially money and finances.

    • May
    • January 31, 2019

    Wow! Congrats to your recent wedding. I’ll take note your money advice. This is applicable for me soon!

    • Marlon Medina
    • January 31, 2019

    These are great inputs. I will share them with my colleague who just got married 3 weeks ago. It’s good to see that married couples have the same opinion about money.

    • Garvin
    • January 30, 2019

    A financial advisor can do wonders for anyone’s finances. All newlyweds should consider having one.

    • nelly
    • January 30, 2019

    I did same when I first met my boyfriend now my husband,I try to make us talk talk our finances because most times it put a strain on marriage.So it was good of ou to share these valuable tips.

  1. Reply

    Congrats to your buddies!
    From personal experience and from hearing/interviewing other couples, there are so many ways to tackle finances together. Like Revanche mentioned, it takes time to build a system that works for both of you.

    I appreciate you sharing my tip about starting with goals. Yes, you have to talk about numbers, but defining your why as couple makes it easier to figure out the how.

    1. Reply

      Always happy to share such fantastic advice! Keep doing what you do 🙂

  2. Reply

    You know what? I started writing about money for newlyweds *as a newlywed* and the biggest thing I learned was that it wasn’t gonna happen in a nice and neat blog series. I had a few married money posts but, for the most part, we simply had to take our time and figure it out organically. It took the better part of 2-3 years to iron out our differences in style and approach, and that’s even after being together nearly a decade! These days we’re operating smoothly on the same page but that’s only the product of many conversations, some more difficult than others, and lots of compromise. Considering how quickly I like to move on financial matters, this was a new lesson on having patience 😀

    1. Reply

      I think blog posts are definitely a good jumping off point, but when you’re talking about a lifetime of financial management with two personalities used to doing things their own way, I’m sure it takes a lot of trial and error. Love your honesty!

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